Working with guilt
Do you ever get stuck feeling guilty about something you’ve done, something you know you know you should be doing, but you never seem to do it?
This is a common human experience and one that we can’t avoid. Surrendering to the inevitably of difficult emotions is a necessary process if we want to reduce our suffering and promote our well-being.
In this State of Mind podcast episode, my colleague Dr. Zarnett and I discuss my interaction with world renowned physician and psychotherapist Dr. Gabor Maté.
Here are some of the many questions we cover in this video.
- How humility plays a big part in effective problem solving and sincere dialogue.
- How the present moment is impacted by childhood experience.
- How to identify difficult emotions and how to interpret them in order to free ourselves from their grip.
- How to honour ourselves for the courage we have to face our fears and work through them.
- How consent and alliance are essential to effective, honest, and meaningful discussion.
If the man in the grey t-shirt is Dr Z. He totally missed some of the points of Gabor. The fact you “reframed” them was great. Yet what i heard, to what he then said was completely different. Esp around the blaming you ruining your childrens/families life with my your behaviour. It was about you looking at when you decided to acknowledge and change your behaviour and whether your parents did the same. Gabor didnt use any blaming language at all. There is no way id want Dr Z to be my therapist. He doesnt seem able to actually hear the words spoken. Compassionate inquiry may not be for him. Exact words and peoples body language are very important. Takes something special to notice them all at the same time.
Hey, thanks for your feedback. Just to confirm, Dr Z is NOT a therapist. He was just asking questions about the interaction and poking at potential alternative perspectives which I think he did a very good job of doing.