Why it’s so difficult to accept you’re addicted to Weed?

Why it’s so difficult to accept you’re addicted to Weed?

The Illusion of Functionality

Accepting defeat to cannabis, usually considered a lightweight drug, can be humiliating. It’s akin to being the hare who loses a race to a turtle or to wetting your bed at your first sleepover. The two realities shouldn’t mix. When they do, a deep sense of shame is the natural response. 

No person likes to admit they have a deficiency or that they’re uniquely flawed compared to all the “normal” people out there. 

Addicted to weed…are you joking me? It’s not even a drug. It grows in the backyard, it’s NATURAL…no one ever died from weed…

If your justification for using substances is that no one has ever died doing it…then you might have a problem. 

Cannabis addiction veils people’s perceptions of reality. It is the slowest yet most reliable form of “slow-sand”. It sinks people before they notice they’re stuck. Similar to a frog in boiling water. The temperature adjusts so slowly that by the time the water is deadly, the frog is unaware of its impending doom. 

Grasping for a sense of assuredness, people often resort to comparing themselves to other addicts to lesson the pain of their reality. This is a form of avoidance and a strategy for the marijuana addict to lessen their shame by thinking about all the other addicts who are “worse”.

“At least I don’t drive drunk and crash my car”.

“At least I’m not a junkie lining up at the safe injection site”. 

The justifications are endless. The torment of embarrassment increases the weight of unworthiness. People carry a shame that …they’re not…a…good enough addict…because they compare themselves to all the other “worse” addicts out there strung out on crystal meth or heroin.

For people in the grips of addiction, the first and only thing they must do to recover is to accept they have a serious problem and they’ve lost all control over their use. They must wave the white flag and surrender.

What is Addiction Anyway?

Let’s just clarify a couple definitions of addiction. The one I like most is from Gabor Maté, 

“Any Addiction is manifested in any behavior that a person craves, finds temporary relief or pleasure in but suffers negative consequences as a result of, and yet has difficulty giving up. In brief: craving, relief, pleasure, suffering, impaired control. Note that this definition is not restricted to drugs but could encompass almost any human behavior, from sex to eating to shopping to gambling to extreme sports to TV to compulsive internet use: the list is endless”. [1]

The National Institute on Drug Abuse reminds us that falling into the grips of addiction isn’t a moral failing. Our initial experimentation with substance use is usually voluntary. Some people are inherently vulnerable to addictive behaviour, and with continued use, their ability to exert self-control becomes impaired. [2]

Once a person enters the addiction trap, brain imaging studies show how the physical changes in our brains that impact one’s ability to control their behaviour, to think clearly, and to make decisions that aren’t influenced by the addictive cycle. [3]

Addiction or getting high is NOT the problem, it’s the SOLUTION. I find this statement to be tremendously helpful because it reminds us that the problem is our internal pain, suffering, and trauma. To recover, we must heal our wounds, we must be willing to look ourselves in the mirror and bring loving kindness to the person we see. This takes an incredible amount of hard work, nevertheless, the alternative of staying the same way is much worse.

Smashing the Illusion

The important thing to note in recovery is, the person MUST, self-identify as having a problem, and they MUST want to stop. 

Back to the conundrum of the cannabis addict. Most of the time, people don’t end up in jail, they hold jobs, and often stay in relationships. 

This is the trap, “Living the fantasy of functionality…holding onto the delusion that one day the enjoyable experience of getting high would return. People in this situation are unfortunately “ensnared in the insidious grip of marijuana”. [4]

Dr. Mate reminds us, It’s not about the addictive substance or behaviour. It is about what we get from it. What the short-term relief is, what it does for the person.

Forgiving Ourselves

Part of the healing process involves the slow and steady process of forgiveness. We must learn to forgive ourselves because the shame, guilt and remorse we carry keeps us emotionally sick. As noted by Dr. Maté, it is this pain that fuels the need to self-medicate through substance use and behavioural addictions.

Forgiveness comes from sustained changes through our actions, not what we say, think or wish would happen. We regain our dignity through dignified action. This ultimately helps us rebuild a sense of integrity as we learn to trust and appreciate ourselves.

We Heal With the Help of Others

Addiction recovery circles remind us that drugs aren’t the problem, they’re the solution, and the group is there to help people develop a healthy, life enriching solution.

Recovery begins with a sense of connection to other people, to a deeper and softer way of relating to oneself. Ultimately, it comes from the decision to heal the broken soul, to face the darkness within and to imagine and develop a larger sense of what it means to be alive.

No one does this alone, people need help. There’s always someone on the other side who can and who wants to help. We just have to make the leap, there’s really nothing to lose and everything to gain. 

We need help
We heal together

Take it easy,
Peace.

If you’re interested in exploring cannabis addiction or any other mental health situation that you’d like to address please feel free to get in touch!


You can watch a video series on exploring weed addiction here.


References

[1] Dr. Gabor Maté. https://drgabormate.com/opioids-universal-experience-addiction/

[2] National Institute on Drug Abuse. https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/media-guide/science-drug-use-addiction-basics

[3] Ibid

[4] Life With Hope. https://marijuana-anonymous.org/literature/life-with-hope/

2 comments

  1. We all have that denial attitude where we actually know that we have done something wrong but we couldn’t just accept the fact that it is not good. This is a good article. Thanks for sharing

    1. Hey Dahlia,
      Thanks so much for taking the time to read the article and to share your thoughts. No doubt we all have the denial attitude that manifests in different ways. Learning to accept our faults and to not get attached to a belief about ourselves because of it is part of the process to move forward and personally, I really needed a lot of help to figure that out!

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